Online Shopping Easter Basket

Sunday, March 22, 2020

I know these days we are all trying to stay out of stores as much as possible. Easter is only three weeks away, though, so I put together some ideas for Easter baskets that are all available online and should definitely come in time to put together an adorable basket for your kiddos! Just click the corresponding number underneath the graphic to shop each product!


It doesn’t look like any stores are shipping candy, but a quick Easter candy search on Amazon came up with a bunch of options! 

I am putting together baskets with a summer theme again this year, so I will be sharing a blog post with everything that my girls will be getting later this week! Hopefully this little post helps you get started, though so we can still make this an amazing Easter that the kids will never forget! :)

What do you usually put in your kids Easter baskets?

Goodbye Baby Tibbetts

Monday, March 16, 2020

I’m so sorry that the blog has been so quiet. It’s definitely been a rough month, but I am finally ready to talk about what happened with our sweet Baby Tibbetts. 

It was all very unexpected. Our embryo transfer was flawless, and I started having pregnancy symptoms about a week later. I didn’t want to get too excited, but I knew in my gut that I was pregnant. I had my blood test, and any hcg level over 50 would have meant a successful pregnancy...mine was 388. I was so excited! Brian and I rejoiced, and told the whole family that Baby #3 was on their way. Maybe I was naive, but I never actually imagined that we would be going through a second miscarriage instead of preparing for a third baby. 

Three days after my blood test, I woke up to my pregnancy apps telling me I was 5 weeks pregnant. It felt so good to know there was a little baby growing inside me, and that I would get to see him or her on an ultrasound in just a couple of weeks. That afternoon, though, I was sitting on my couch and mentioned to my sister that I felt a little crampy, but I pushed it off as gas cramps. After I put Natalie down for her nap, I went to the restroom and realized that I was bleeding. A lot. My heart instantly sank. I texted Brian at work and told him I was going to the ER, and he immediately let his captain know that he needed to leave the station and get to me. After a 5 hour ER visit (which was AWFUL but I’ll spare the horrific details) the doctor told me that my hcg was 1427 which meant doubling was right on target, and I was still pregnant with a little embryo measuring 2mm...right on track for 5 weeks. I was the most shocked and relieved person in that entire ER, guaranteed. I was told to go home and go on bed rest for 48 hours. 

I called my reproductive endocrinologist on the way home, and he said that it was likely a subchorionic hematoma, just like I had with my last two pregnancies. Basically, it’s a blood clot that forms between the uterine wall and the amniotic sac, it’s usually harmless to the baby, but sometimes it can grow too big and cause a miscarriage. He upped my progesterone doses and told me to definitely take it easy.

The next day, I announced my pregnancy on social media. Despite things looking on the bleak side, I wanted to feel excitement and joy. God gave me this precious gift, and I deserved to be happy about it. With my first miscarriage no one even knew I was pregnant until I shared that the baby had died, and that was the worst feeling ever. I was determined to give myself time to celebrate. 

I rested through the weekend, and on Sunday morning, I just didn’t feel right. I had been bleeding and cramping for three days straight, with no sign of it stopping, and I noticed my pregnancy symptoms were starting to vanish. I tried to stay hopeful, but in my heart I knew something was wrong. 

The next day, I went to my RE for a repeat blood test, and they were nice enough to give me an ultrasound for “peace of mind”. The tech tried her hardest, but finally said “Ash, I’m so sorry, there’s no signs of pregnancy at all.” At some point over the weekend, I had lost my precious baby and had no idea. One day I was being told that everything would probably be okay, and just days later I was being told that I wasn’t even pregnant anymore. Blood test results that afternoon confirmed that my hcg level was down to 528. The pregnancy had for sure ended.

At first, I was in shock, and I couldn’t speak or even think, but I looked over and saw Brian sobbing in the chair next to me. It was in that moment that it hit me just how many people were going to be so sad that our baby didn’t make it. I dreaded picking up Baylee from school and having to tell her that she wasn’t going to have another sibling after all. I was absolutely heartbroken. (Just for the record, she took the news very well and was more worried about me. Sometimes the maturity level of my 5-year-old girl in tough situations floors me.)

I spent most of the day crying, but I’ve never been one to dwell on sadness. Healing and processing what had happened has been my goal for the last two weeks, and I can honestly say that I’m mostly okay. There’s a place in my heart that’s a little sad and angry, but God is bigger than any of my plans, and only He knows why and what is coming next. I have so much faith that the truth will reveal itself in time.

So, now I find myself at crossroads. Before my embryo transfer even began, I said that this would be my last one no matter the outcome. If I got pregnant, great, but if I didn’t, we would move on and I would be able to say I tried. What I didn’t expect, though, was to get pregnant and fall in love with this baby only to have it taken away from me in such a short time. Nothing in this world can prepare someone for that. With my first miscarriage I knew right away that I wanted to do another transfer as soon as it was physically possible, and that helped me to cope. This time, however, I have no idea what I want to do. The pros and cons are endless, and I’m truly stuck. The best I can do for now is focus on my health and my amazing family, and pray my heart out that God leads me to the right choice. 

 This loss was awful, but now each of my girls has their own little guardian angel sibling in Heaven. I can’t possibly think a more comforting thought. Goodbye sweet baby, Mommy will always love and want you. I pray that you found your brother or sister, and that one day, in Heaven, I will finally be able to see your sweet face. 
Sleep well, my love. 

Tutu Cute!

Monday, February 10, 2020

Natalie’s 2nd birthday party was over the weekend, and the theme was tutu cute. It was one of the easiest and cutest parties I’ve ever thrown, so I just had to come on here and share with you all!

The dessert table was the true magic of the party. We made a balloon arch and hung this swan above the prettiest tutu tablecloth (which happens to be the tablecloth we got for my baby shower with Baylee!). I wanted to keep the desserts simple and pretty, so we dipped pirouettes and marshmallows in pink chocolate, drizzled it on some salted popcorn, and then put pink sugar sprinkles all over everything! We also made pink Rice Krispie treats, cupcakes with strawberry and vanilla frosting, and had store-bought sugar cookies and pink heart Reese’s peanut butter cups.

For the other blank wall in the room, we put up some tulle and a flower vine, and then had some pictures from Natalie’s photo shoot hanging on twine and clothespins. Brian made the cutest rose gold ballet barre to add to the theme, and we hung some of Baylee’s tutu’s and ballet slippers on it. Just for fun, we took the extra balloons that we didn’t need for the balloon arch and put them all over the floor.

For the actual party, we served meatball and pulled pork sliders, and Brian made his famous mac & cheese. We had a lot of kids show up, and thankfully the daytime was unseasonably warm, so we rented a bounce house for them to go crazy in! We also did a piƱata, which was an absolute blast (and SO much easier than making goodie bags). 

Natalie had so much fun running around with all of her little friends, stealing treats off the dessert table every 5 minutes, and having her beloved “Happy Birthday to You” sung to her.  It made my heart so full to see my girl so happy!

I can’t wait to experience the terrific two’s with this little munchkin!

Natalie’s Two Year Update!

Sunday, February 9, 2020

And just like that, my tiny little peanut is 2! It’s hard to believe how quickly time has flown, but here we are! She has gotten to be so silly, so sassy, and so much fun! I don’t care what anyone says, give me ALL the two-year-olds! Natalie is so smart, and talks like a little parrot all day long. She is starting to learn her colors and numbers, and is learning to sing all her favorite songs. (“The Itsy Bitsy Spider” is her jam right now.) She can point out hearts and stars, knows animals and what sounds they make, and knows where most of her body parts are! She loves to dance and is already Disney obsessed like her mama and big sis. Her favorite characters are Olaf, Elsa, & Ariel.

Natalie has a heart of gold, and loves being surrounded by people. She hates goodbyes, loves to go places, and is usually a very friendly and happy girl! She’s a mama’s girl to a fault and wants me to hold her or to be as near to me as possible 75% of the time.

Age: 2
Weight: 25 lbs
Height: 33 inches
Clothing size: 24 months/2T
Teeth: She finally cut the rest, so we are just waiting on 2 year molars!
Favorite foods: peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, oatmeal, apples, bananas, pasta, cheese, & chicken nuggets
Words: We’ve graduated to full sentences, and her little voice is just so cute! My favorite words that she says in a funny way, though are: “ducks”=stuck, “huss up”=get up/stand up, “soon”=spoon
Favorite activities: dancing, eating (90% of the time), playing outside, & going “bye bye in da carsss”
Least favorite activites: Natalie is honestly pretty chill, but she hates being told “no”. She often ignores being told not to do something, and then throws a tantrum when she gets a time-out or something taken away. She’s super easy to distract though, so I can’t help but laugh when she just changes the subject.
Favorite toys: Every toy in her sister’s room (haha), baby dolls, the play kitchen, mega blocks, Little People, and any kind of art supplies
Signature moves: walking in to a room where Baylee and Kennedy are and saying “Hi guys!”, shouting “Dis is fun!” when she is enjoying whatever we are doing, saying “No dank you...I don wanna...” anytime she is asked if she wants to go potty on the toilet.

I love this girl more than I could ever explain! She adds so much joy and light to our days! Happy Birthday, precious Natty Lou! I hope your day was as magical as you!

Gift Ideas For Two-Year-Olds!

Monday, February 3, 2020

My little peanut turns 2 on Sunday, and I honestly feel like we were just having her first birthday party! Time has flown, but I am so excited to celebrate her adorable little toddler self! As we prepare for her party this weekend, I thought it would be fun to share some of the gift ideas for two-year-olds that I added to her “wish list” this year.

1. This magnetic doodle board is perfect for toddler’s to practice drawing. There’s absolutely no mess, and you can take it in the car for entertainment!

2. Books are always a great go-to for two-year-olds! This year we have Chicka, Chicka, Boom Boom, Mrs. Peanuckle’s Fruit Alphabet, and Where’s Spot on her list, as well as a few others!

3. Baylee got a hippity hop ball for Christmas, and Natalie wants to ride it so bad, but she’s just not there yet. This bouncy unicorn is a perfect alternative for her age!

4. Kids love things that are “their sized” so we love our tiny tables over here. This kids table is great for a play room because of the bins underneath!

5. Natalie actually got this Mega Blocks Table for Christmas, so technically it’s not on her list, but I had to share it because she loves it so much. We haven’t even taken it up to the play room yet, because she plays with it every single day.

6. This is another item that Natalie already has, but it’s forever my favorite alphabet puzzle, and I just think all kids need it!

7. Dress up and pretend play are Natalie’s jam right now, so this little purse with accessories is perfect. I know she’s going to want to take it everywhere!

8. Puzzles are always a great gift for toddlers, and wooden ones are our favorite. This little wooden puzzle set even comes with a cute little storage box.

Those are some of the highlights, but if you need other ideas for the two-year-old in your life, you can view her full list here.

I am so excited to share Natalie’s second birthday celebration with you all! :)

FET Number 3!

Monday, January 27, 2020

Hi friends! For those of you who follow me on Instagram (@coffeeandgraceblog) you know that we just announced that we are going to transfer one of our remaining 13 embryos to try for baby #3 very soon! I know the IVF world can be so confusing, so I thought I would answer some questions to help you better understand what will be happening. But first, let’s back track a little...

So, my secondary infertility story in a nutshell is that we conceived Baylee naturally, without any struggle, and the month after we got married. It goes without saying that we had no clue anything was wrong, and we thought that once we decided to try for baby #2 that the same thing would happen. We wanted our babies close in age, so we starting trying again when Baylee was only 9 months old. Two years later, we still were not pregnant. 

We had been working closely with my OB and tried many cycles of clomid, but things were just not working out. After a lot of testing we found out I have PCOS and a heart shaped (bicornuate) uterus...both of which cause infertility. Basically, Baylee is an absolute miracle, because the odds of her being conceived were slim to none.

We were referred to our amazing Reproductive Endocrinologist, and after meeting and doing some tests with him, we all decided that IVF was our best bet. That’s when the whirlwind began...our meeting was in November, I started stim shots in December, and my egg retrieval was January 10th. So. Fast. We were able to harvest 27 eggs, and of those 27 that were fertilized, 15 embryos survived and were frozen! In the IVF world that’s positively amazing, and we felt so blessed. (You can read details on my stims and egg retrieval in this blog post.)

A couple months later, we transferred our first frozen embryo. I ended up pregnant, but at 7 weeks the baby’s heart stopped beating. It was absolutely crushing after all that we had been through, not to mention the money spent (not a dime was covered by insurance, we paid entirely out-of-pocket), but I kept my hopes high, and three months later we tried again. And thank goodness we did, because the result of that embryo transfer was my sweet Natty Lou!

With 13 embryos left, I truly wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. But now that I feel more adjusted in the world of being a mom to two and a fire wife, I definitely feel ready to take on a third (and last!!) babe. ;)

To answer some of the questions you guys have been asking:

No, we do not get to pick the gender. We opted not to do PGS (genetic) testing which finds out the sex and has to be done before the embryos are frozen. So, this baby’s gender will be a complete surprise to us all!

We will only be transferring one embryo because with my bicornuate uterus, carrying multiples would put me at extreme high risk. There is around an 8% chance of my embryo splitting in to identical twins, but we would just have to cross that road once we got there!

The odds of a frozen embryo transfer resulting in pregnancy is about 80%, but with already having two successful transfers, my odds are more like 90%. Anything can happen though, so we still need all the prayers and good vibes!

If you have any more questions, please do not hesitate to ask, I am an open book! I can’t thank you all enough for your love and support through this next journey!

Love List

Monday, January 6, 2020

Took me almost a week, but I am finally posting my first blog entry of 2020! Can we just talk about how is it already 2020?! I remember graduating high school in 2004, and feeling like 2020 was eons away, and now suddenly here we are! I am so excited, though, because 2018 was for survival, 2019 was for growth and learning, and now for 2020 the Tibbetts fam is going to LIVE LIFE! We have a lot of fun stuff planned, and I can’t wait to take you all on the journey! 

And now, before I continue rambling on and on about how old I am ;), here is a list of things I’m loving rn!

1. These storage trays from Target. Jess Oakes shared these in her stories, and I knew I had to have them. Right now I am doing the two week Declutter Like A Mother challenge, so I have been all about all the organizational things!

2. Starbucks Cups from Lauren Mackenzie Decals. If you follow me on Instagram, you have probably noticed these cups in my stories! They are absolutely adorable and completely customizable. During the holidays I used a hot cup that said “Cup of Cheer”, and I also have cold cups that say “Coffee & Grace” and “Fire Wife”. 

3. The Fawn Design wallet. I got this beauty in blush for Christmas and I am obsessed with it! I need all the colors! It’s the perfect size wallet, and I love that it has a wristlet attached when I don’t want to bring a whole purse or diaper bag somewhere.

4. This Target Sweatshirt. Get this and thank me later. It’s the most comfortable sweatshirt I have ever owned!

5. Ethos Leggings. My sister turned me on to these and I’m eternally grateful, because a good pair of leggings can change your life, amiright? Right now they have some colors on sale for $29, but keep an eye out because every now and then they have sales where every pair is only $25! Such an amazing deal.

6. Instant Pot. I know, I know, I’m one thousand years late to the Instant Pot party, but I finally got one for Christmas, and I am here to tell you that it 100% lives up to the hype. Last night, we made perfect parmesan chicken and red potatoes in 20 just can’t beat that! So, send me all the recipes please! :)

That’s all for now, friends! I hope you all are having a great January so far!